So here we are. Our lives have been completed disrupted by Coronavirus. We are experiencing unprecedented times and having to adjust to a new way of living where we work from home (if we can), we can’t physically see or hug our family when we want to and, if we can go outside, we must try to avoid people, and if we encounter them we swiftly move into an appropriate ‘social distance’. On top of this, we have no way of knowing how long this will continue.
Our need for information can overwhelm our minds in a constant and ever-changing dialogue about pandemic, disaster, isolation and risk. We respond in various ways, from denial, to panic, anxiety and helplessness with these feelings changing throughout the day.
I’ll be honest, this isn’t easy for me. I lost my mum, sister, dad, aunt and granddad to pneumonia. My mum was 50 and healthy, my sister was 49 and had MS. My husband has a pre-existing health condition – so to put it frankly Covid-19 scares the …. out of me and I recognise the feelings of anxiety and panic.
However, I wind back. This time 2 years ago, I was just about to find out that the symptoms I had been experiencing for months were due to spinal cord damage – basically I had a huge calcified prolapse disc sticking in my spinal cord, which would eventually, if not treated, leave me paralysed from the waist down. However, the surgery I had to urgently undergo was risky, carried a 2% chance of paralysis and only a 30% chance of improvement. It also carried a risk of pneumonia as they had to deflate one lung. The bottom dropped out of my world. All my plans and dreams were put on hold. I was so scared!
But this is not about me and then. It’s about what I learnt that helped me get through the fear and anxiety in, what turned out to be, a 2 month wait for surgery. It’s about what I learnt that can help us now. During that time, I went through similar feelings of denial, of lack of control, a need for more information, and then wishing I hadn’t found out the things I had. At some point I realised there was nothing I could do to change things; I could only learn to accept how things were and enjoy what I had right then. I had to put my trust in other people, especially my surgeon.
That’s when I really discovered mindfulness and the power of using my breath to calm me. I practised this every day to get through. Also, every day I made myself get on my indoor bike – I’ve always been active, but I could barely walk a mile – this allowed me to have an outlet for my energy. I found songs that inspired me on the bike and that helped me feel strong.
I was lucky! My surgery was successful and last year I slowly regained strength and got back to walking and even some running. But I will never be the same as I was before. Some of that’s physical but mostly it’s about my attitude and how I feel and notice things differently. I’d reassessed what was important to me. I went out and saw the butterflies and watched the birds – they had always been there – I had just been too busy rushing around at 100 miles an hour to see them before. I actually LIVE my life now. I’m don’t worry about what’s gone before- what’s the point? We all like to have plans but now I know that plans can and do change – and what seemed so important before, may be less so after this.
Good things came out of my experience. I now know how to cope better with fear.
I’m sharing this because I just want to offer hope and some inspiration at the end of what seems like a long dark tunnel.
At the moment I’ve been thinking about how I can help you to keep strong while my clinic is closed.
Some of my clients have already experienced Be Activated Techniques during my treatments. I may have taken you through the complete sequence, or I may have just used breathing, if I thought that would help. Underlyingly though, I use the principle of this in most of my work. Our minds and bodies are intrinsically linked and if we are stressed, our body is stuck in a ‘flight or fight’ response and cannot function optimally. But we can change that. We may not be in control of what is happening in the world but we can choose where to focus our minds. This will help us build resilience and reduce our vulnerability.
There are a few things I think will help.
Find time to breathe!
I know you must be doing this already are if you’re reading this! But I mean, really breathe! Do it now – 10 breaths.
- In through your nose
- Out through your mouth
- All in your belly (hand on your belly button and feel it expand)
- Nothing in your chest
Then find yourself space to practice this at least once a day especially if you are feeling stressed or anxious.
Mindfulness and mediation.
There are plenty of apps and videos out there. Find something that works for you. These also have breathing practices.
Positive thoughts will make you stronger.
Rather than thinking about what you might be missing, focus on what you can you do with this time you have. Write down the things you are you grateful for. Play music you love and dance or sing. Start a new exercise and think about being fitter at the end of this. Read a book, learn a language – whatever it is you’ve been wanting to do but never find time. Go for a run, walk or get on a bike if you can (practising social distancing) but keep it positive.
When we are inspired and grateful, we are stronger and more energetic; when we are feel anxious, we are weaker and more vulnerable.
Keep away from social media and the news.
If you can’t do this entirely then perhaps allow yourself to check in once or twice a day, but look for sources you feel you can trust. The news will increase your fear and anxiety and really there is not a lot you can do to control this situation.
Enjoy the sunshine!
If it’s safe for you to go outside, then enjoy it while you can, while of course observing social distance. I am getting up very early to go out and really love that early morning walk. It’s hard to get out of bed but I know it’s the best part of the day. I feel safer because there are less people around and it’s incredibly calming! If you can’t go outside, then open the windows and feel it the air on your face and breath it in.
With your friends and family. We need connections – this is going to be the most difficult part for many of us. When I think too much about this is makes me sad. So find the best way to keep connected while staying safe. Use Facetime or the phone – just do it often. If you know of someone who may be lonely or isolated then try and check in to find out how they are managing. Be kind!
Keep safe. Stay strong. Let’s get through this!